Friday, 30 July 2021

No 7

 

THE DIARY OF A PROVINCIAL LADY

 

PART 7

 

         

 

_March 25th._--Return home, to Robert, Helen Wills, and new

house-parlourman, who is--I now learn for the first time--named

Fitzsimmons. I tell Robert that it is impossible that he should be called

this. Robert replies, Why not? Can only say that if Robert cannot see

this for himself, explanation will be useless. Then, says Robert, no doubt

we can call him by his first name. This, on investigation, turns out to

be Howard. Find myself quite unable to cope with any of it, and the whole

situation is met by my never calling the house-parlourman anything at

all except "you" and speaking of him to Robert as "Howard Fitzsimmons", in

inverted commas as though intending to be funny. Very unsatisfactory

solution.

 

Try to tell Robert all about London--(with exception of Italian

Exhibition, which I do not mention)--but Aladdin lamp flares up, which

interferes, and have also to deal with correspondence concerning Women's

Institute Monthly Meeting, replacement of broken bedroom

tumblers--attributed to Ethel--disappearance of one pyjama-jacket and two

table-napkins in the wash, and instructions to Howard Fitzs. concerning

his duties. (_Mem_.: Must certainly make it crystal-clear that

acceptable formula, when receiving an order, is not "Right-oh!" Cannot,

at the moment, think how to word this, but must work it out, and then

deliver with firmness and precision.)

 

Robert very kind about London, but perhaps rather more interested in my

having met Barbara Blenkinsop--which, after all, I can do almost any day

in the village--than in my views on _Nine till Six_ (the best play I

have seen for ages) or remarkable increase of traffic in recent years.

Tell Robert by degrees about my new clothes. He asks when I expect to

wear them, and I reply that one never knows--which is only too true--and

conversation closes.

 

Write long letter to Angela, for the express purpose of referring

casually to Rose's distinguished friends, met in London.

 

_March 27th._--Angela replies to my letter, but says little about

distinguished society in which I have been moving, and asks for full

account of my impressions of Italian Exhibition. She and William, she

says, went up on purpose to see it, and visited it three times. Can only

say--but do not, of course, do so--that William must have been dragged

there by the hair of his head.

 

_March 28th._--Read admirable, but profoundly discouraging, article

in _Time and Tide_ relating to Bernard Shaw's women, but applying to

most of us. Realise--not for the first time--that intelligent women can

perhaps best perform their duty towards their own sex by devastating

process of telling them the truth about themselves. At the same time,

cannot feel that I shall really enjoy hearing it. Ultimate paragraph of

article, moreover, continues to haunt me most unpleasantly with reference

to own undoubted vulnerability where Robin and Vicky are concerned. Have

very often wondered if Mothers are not rather A Mistake altogether, and

now definitely come to the conclusion that they _are_.

 

Interesting speculation as to how they might best be replaced interrupted

by necessity of seeing that Fitzs. is turning out spare-bedroom according

to instructions. Am unspeakably disgusted at finding him sitting in

spare-room armchair, with feet on the window-sill. He says that he is

"not feeling very well". Am much more taken aback than he is, and lose my

head to the extent of replying: "Then go and be it in your own room."

Realise afterwards that this might have been better worded.

 

_April 2nd._--Barbara calls. Can she, she says, speak to me in

_confidence?_ I assure her that she can, and at once put Helen Wills

and kitten out of the window in order to establish confidential

atmosphere. Sit, seething with excitement, in the hope that I am at least

going to be told that Barbara is engaged. Try to keep this out of sight,

and to maintain expression of earnest and sympathetic attention only,

whilst Barbara says that it is sometimes very difficult to know which way

Duty lies, that she has always thought a true woman's highest vocation is

home-making, and that the love of a Good Man is the crown of life. I say

Yes, Yes, to all of this. (Discover, on thinking it over, that I do not

agree with any of it, and am shocked at my own extraordinary duplicity.)

 

 

Barbara at length admits that Crosbie has asked her to marry him--he did

it, she says, at the Zoo--and go out with him as his wife to the

Himalayas. This, says Barbara, is where all becomes difficult. She may be

old-fashioned--no doubt she is--but can she leave her mother alone? No,

she cannot. Can she, on the other hand, give up dear Crosbie, who has

never loved a girl before, and says that he never will again? No, she

cannot.

 

Barbara weeps. I kiss her. Howard Fitzsimmons selects this moment to walk

in with the tea, at which I sit down again in confusion and begin to talk

about the Vicarage daffodils being earlier than ours, just as Barbara

launches into the verdict in the Podmore Case. We gyrate uneasily in and

out of these topics while Howard Fitzsimmons completes his preparations

for tea. Atmosphere ruined, and destruction completed by my own necessary

enquiries as to Barbara's wishes in the matter of milk, sugar,

bread-and-butter, and so on. (_Mem_.: Must speak to Cook about

sending in minute segment of sponge-cake, remains of one which, to my

certain recollection, made its first appearance more than ten days ago.

Also, why perpetual and unappetising procession of small rock-cakes?)

 

Robert comes in, he talks of swine-fever, all further confidences become

impossible. Barbara takes her leave immediately after tea, only asking if

I could look in on her mother and have a Little Talk? I reluctantly agree

to do so, and she mounts her bicycle and rides off. Robert says, That

girl holds herself well, but it's a pity she has those ankles.

 

_April 4th._--Go to see old Mrs. Blenkinsop. She is, as usual,

swathed in shawls, but has exchanged _Lord Beaconsfield_ for

_Froude and Carlyle_. She says that I am very good to come and see a

poor old woman, and that she often wonders how it is that so many of the

younger generation seem to find their way to her by instinct. Is it, she

suggests, because her _heart_ has somehow kept young, in spite of

her grey hair and wrinkles, ha-ha-ha, and so she has always been able to

find the Silver Lining, she is thankful to say. I circuitously approach

the topic of Barbara. Mrs. B. at once says that the young are very hard

and selfish. This is natural, perhaps, but it saddens her. Not on her own

account--no, no, no--but because she cannot bear to think of what Barbara

will have to suffer from remorse when it is Too Late.

 

Feel a strong inclination to point out that this is _not_ finding

the Silver Lining, but refrain. Long monologue from old Mrs. B. follows.

Main points that emerge are: (a) That Mrs. B. has not got very many more

years to spend amongst us; (b) that all her life has been given up to

others, but that she deserves no credit for this, as it is just the way

she is made; (c) that all she wants is to see her Barbara happy, and it

matters nothing at all that she herself should be left alone and helpless

in her old age, and no one is to give a thought to that for a moment.

Finally, that it has never been her way to think of herself or of her own

feelings. People have often said to her that they believe she _has_

no self--simply, none at all.

 

Pause, which I do not attempt to fill, ensues.

 

We return to Barbara, and Mrs. B. says it is very natural that a girl

should be wrapped up in her own little concerns. I feel that we are

getting no further, and boldly introduce the name of Crosbie Carruthers.

Terrific effect on Mrs. B., who puts her hand on her heart, leans back,

and begins to gasp and turn blue. She is sorry, she pants, to be so

foolish, but it is now many nights since she has had any sleep at all,

and the strain is beginning to tell. I must forgive her. I hastily do

forgive her, and depart.

 

Very, very unsatisfactory interview.

 

Am told, on my way home, by Mrs. S. of the _Cross and Keys_, that a

gentleman is staying there who is said to be engaged to Miss Blenkinsop,

but the old lady won't hear of it, and he seems such a nice gentleman

too, though perhaps not quite as young as some, and do I think the

Himalayas would be All Right if there was a baby coming along? Exchange

speculations and comments with Mrs. S. for some time before recollecting

that the whole thing is supposed to be private, and that in any case

gossip is undesirable.

 

Am met at home by Mademoiselle with intelligent enquiry as to the

prospects of Miss Blenkinsop's immediate marriage, and the attitude

adopted by old Mrs. B. "Le coeur d'une mère," says Mademoiselle

sentimentally. Even the infant Vicky suddenly demands if that gentleman

at the _Cross and Keys_ is really Miss Blenkinsop's True Love? At

this, Mademoiselle screams, "Ah, mon Dieu, ces enfants anglais!" and is

much upset at impropriety of Vicky's language.

 

Even Robert enquires What All This Is, about Barbara Blenkinsop? I

explain, and he returns--very, very briefly--that old Mrs. Blenkinsop

ought to be Shot--which gets us no further, but meets with my entire

approval.

 

_April 10th._--Entire parish now seething with the _affaire_

Blenkinsop. Old Mrs. B. falls ill, and retires to bed. Barbara bicycles

madly up and down between her mother and the garden of the _Cross and

Keys_, where C. C. spends much time reading copies of _The Times of

India_ and smoking small cigars. We are all asked by Barbara What she

Ought to Do, and all give different advice. Deadlock appears to have been

reached, when C. C. suddenly announces that he is summoned to London and

must have an answer One Way or the Other immediately.

 

Old Mrs. B.--who has been getting better and taking Port--instantly gets

worse again and says that she will not long stand in the way of dear

Barbara's happiness.

 

Period of fearful stress sets in, and Barbara and C. C. say Good-bye in

the front sitting-room of the _Cross and Keys_. They have, says

Barbara in tears, parted For Ever, and Life is Over, and will I take the

Guides' Meeting for her to-night--which I agree to do.

 

_April 12th._--Return of Robin for the holidays. He has a cold, and,

as usual, is short of handkerchiefs. I write to the Matron about this,

but have no slightest hope of receiving either handkerchiefs or rational

explanation of their disappearance. Robin mentions that he has invited "a

boy" to come and stay for a week. I ask, Is he very nice and a great

friend of yours? Oh no, says Robin, he is one of the most unpopular boys

in the school. And after a moment he adds, _That's why_. Am touched,

and think that this denotes a generous spirit, but am also undeniably

rather apprehensive as to possible characteristics of future guest. I

repeat the story to Mademoiselle, who--as usual, when I praise Robin--at

once remarks: "Madame, notre petite Vicky n'a pas de défauts"--which is

neither true nor relevant.

 

Receive a letter from Mary K. with postscript: Is it true that Barbara

Blenkinsop is engaged to be married? and am also asked the same question

by Lady B., who looks in on her way to some ducal function on the other

side of the county. Have no time in which to enjoy being in the superior

position of bestowing information, as Lady B. at once adds that

_she_ always advises girls to marry, no matter what the man is like,

as any husband is better than none, and there are not nearly enough to go

round.

 

I immediately refer to Rose's collection of distinguished Feminists,

giving her to understand that I know them all well and intimately, and

have frequently discussed the subject with them. Lady B. waves her

hand--(in elegant white kid, new, not cleaned)--and declares That may be

all very well, but if they could have got _husbands_ they wouldn't

_be_ Feminists. I instantly assert that all have had husbands, and

some two or three. This may or may not be true, but have seldom known

stronger homicidal impulse. Final straw is added when Lady B. amiably

observes that _I_, at least, have nothing to complain of, as she

always thinks Robert such a safe, respectable husband for _any_

woman. Give her briefly to understand that Robert is in reality a

compound of Don Juan, the Marquis de Sade, and Dr. Crippen, but that we

do not care to let it be known locally. Cannot say whether she is or is

not impressed by this, as she declares herself obliged to go, because

ducal function "cannot begin without her". All I can think of is to

retort that Duchesses--(of whom, in actual fact, I do not know

any)--always remind me of Alice in Wonderland, as do white kid gloves of

the White Rabbit. Lady B. replies that I am always so well-read, and car

moves off leaving her with, as usual, the last word.

 

Evolve in my own mind merry fantasy in which members of the Royal Family

visit the neighbourhood and honour Robert and myself by becoming our

guests at luncheon. (Cannot quite fit Howard Fitzs. into this scheme, but

gloss over that aspect of the case.) Robert has just been raised to the

peerage, and I am, with a slight and gracious inclination of the head,

taking precedence of Lady B. at large dinner party, when Vicky comes in

to say that the Scissor-Grinder is at the door, and if we haven't

anything to grind, he'll be pleased to attend to the clocks or rivet any

china.

 

Am disconcerted at finding itinerant gipsy, of particularly low

appearance, encamped at back door, with collection of domestic articles

strewn all round him and his machine. Still more disconcerted at

appearance of Mademoiselle, in fits of loud and regrettable Gallic

merriment, bearing extremely unsuitable fragments of bedroom ware in

either hand...She, Vicky, and the Scissor-Grinder join in unseemly mirth,

and I leave them to it, thankful that at least Lady B. is by now well on

her way and cannot descend upon the scene. Am seriously exercised in my

mind as to probable standard of humour with which Vicky will grow up.

 

Look for Robin and eventually find him with the cat, shut up into totally

unventilated linen-cupboard, eating cheese which he says he found on the

back stairs.

 

(Undoubtedly, a certain irony can be found in the fact that I have

recently been appointed to new Guardians Committee, and am expected to

visit Workhouse, etc., with particular reference to children's quarters,

in order that I may offer valuable suggestions on questions of hygiene

and general welfare of inmates...Can only hope that fellow-members of the

Committee will never be inspired to submit my own domestic arrangements

to similar inspection.)

 

Write letters. Much interrupted by Helen Wills, wanting to be let out,

kitten, wanting to be let in, and dear Robin, who climbs all over all the

furniture, apparently unconscious that he is doing so, and tells me at

the same time, loudly and in full, the story of _The Swiss Family

Robinson_.

 

_April 14th._--Cook electrifies me by asking me if I have heard that

Miss Barbara Blenkinsop's engagement is on again, it's all over the

village. The gentleman, she says, came down by the 8.45 last night, and

is at the _Cross and Keys_. As it is exactly 9.15 A.M. when she

tells me this, I ask how she knows? Cook merely repeats that It is All

Over the Village, and that Miss Barbara will quite as like as not be

married by special licence, and old Mrs. B. is in such a way as never

was. Am disconcerted to find that Cook and I have been talking our heads

off for the better part of forty minutes before I remember that gossip is

both undignified and undesirable.

 

Just as I am putting on my hat to go down to the Blenkinsops' our Vicar's

wife rushes in. All is true, she says, _and more_. Crosbie

Carruthers, in altogether desperate state, has threatened suicide, and

written terrific farewell letter to Barbara, who has cried herself--as

our Vicar's wife rather strangely expresses it--to the merest

_pulp_, and begged him to Come At Once. A Blenkinsop Family Council

has been summoned--old Mrs. B. has had Attacks--(nobody quite knows what

of)--but has finally been persuaded to reconsider entire problem. Our

Vicar has been called in to give impartial advice and consolation to all

parties. He is there now. Surely, I urge, he will use all his influence

on behalf of C. C. and Barbara? Our Vicar's wife, agitated, says Yes,

Yes,--he is all in favour of young folk living their own lives, whilst at

the same time he feels that a mother's claims are sacred, and although he

realises the full beauty of self-sacrifice, yet on the other hand no one

knows better than he does that the devotion of a Good Man is not to be

lightly relinquished.

 

Feel that if this is to be our Vicar's only contribution towards the

solution of the problem, he might just as well have stayed at home--but

naturally do not impart this opinion to his wife. We decide to walk down

to the village, and do so. The gardener stops me on the way, and says he

thought I might like to know that Miss Barbara's young gentleman has

turned up again, and wants to marry her before he sails next month, and

old Mrs. Blenkinsop is taking on so, they think she'll have a stroke.

 

Similar information also reaches us from six different quarters in the

village. No less than three motor-cars and two bicycles are to be seen

outside old Mrs. B.'s cottage, but no one emerges, and I am obliged to

suggest that our Vicar's wife should come home with me to lunch. This she

does, after many demurs, and gets cottage-pie--(too much

onion)--rice-shape, and stewed prunes. Should have sent to the farm for

cream, if I had known.

 

_April 15th._--Old Mrs. Blenkinsop reported to have Come Round.

Elderly unmarried female Blenkinsop, referred to as Cousin Maud, has

suddenly materialised, and offered to live with her--Our Vicar has come

out boldly in support of this scheme--and Crosbie Carruthers has given

Barbara engagement ring with three stones, said to be rare Indian

Topazes, and has gone up to town to Make Arrangements. Immediate

announcement in the _Morning Post_ expected.

 

_April 18th._--Receive visit from Barbara, who begs that I will

escort her to London for quiet and immediate wedding. Am obliged to

refuse, owing to bad colds of Robin and Vicky, general instability of

domestic staff, and customary unsatisfactory financial situation. Offer

then passed on to our Vicar's wife, who at once accepts it. I undertake,

however, at Barbara's urgent request, to look in as often as possible on

her mother. Will I, adds Barbara, make it clear that she is not losing a

Daughter, but only gaining a Son, and two years will soon be over, and at

the end of that time dear Crosbie will bring her home to England. I

recklessly commit myself to doing anything and everything, and write to

the Army and Navy Stores for a luncheon-basket, to give as

wedding-present to Barbara. The Girl Guides present her with a

sugar-castor and a waste-paper basket embossed with raffia flowers. Lady

B. sends a chafing-dish with a card bearing illegible and far-fetched

joke connected with Indian curries. We all agree that this is not in the

least amusing. Mademoiselle causes Vicky to present Barbara with small

tray-cloth, on which two hearts are worked in cross-stitch.

 

To be continued

 

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