Friday, 3 September 2021

No 12

 

THE DIARY OF A PROVINCIAL LADY

 

PART 12

 

         

 

_July 23rd._--Cannot avoid contrasting deliriously rapid flight of

time when on a holiday, with very much slower passage of days and even

hours, in other and more familiar surroundings.

 

(_Mem_.: This disposes once and for all of fallacy that days seem

long when spent in complete idleness. They seem, on the contrary, very

much longer when filled with ceaseless activities.)

 

Rose--always so gifted in discovering attractive and interesting

friends--is established in circle of gifted--and in some cases actually

celebrated--personalities. We all meet daily on rocks, and bathe in sea.

Temperature and surroundings very, very different to those of English

Channel or Atlantic Ocean, and consequently find myself emboldened to the

extent of quite active swimming. Cannot, however, compete with

Viscountess, who dives, or her friend, who has unique and very striking

method of doing back-fall into the water. Am, indeed, led away by spirit

of emulation into attempting dive on one solitary occasion, and am

convinced that I have plumbed the depths of the Mediterranean--have

doubts, in fact, of ever leaving it again--but on enquiring of extremely

kind spectator--(famous Headmistress)--How I went In, she replies gently:

About level with the Water, she thinks--and we say no more about it.

 

_July 25th._--Vicky writes affectionately, but briefly--Mademoiselle

at greater length, and quite illegibly, but evidently full of hopes that

I am enjoying myself. Am touched, and send each a picture-postcard.

Robin's letter, written from school, arrives later, and contains

customary allusions to boys unknown to me, also information that he has

asked two of them to come and stay with him in the holidays, and has

accepted invitation to spend a week with another. Postscript adds

straightforward enquiry, Have I bought any chocolate yet?

 

I do so forthwith.

 

_July 26th._--Observe in the glass that I look ten years younger

than on arrival here, and am gratified. This, moreover, in spite of what

I cannot help viewing as perilous adventure recently experienced in

(temporarily) choppy sea, agitated by _vent d'est_, in which no one

but Rose's Viscountess attempts to swim. She indicates immense and

distant rock, and announces her intention of swimming to it. I say that I

will go too. Long before we are half-way there, I know that I shall never

reach it, and hope that Robert's second wife will be kind to the

children. Viscountess, swimming calmly, says, Am I all right? I reply, Oh

quite, and am immediately submerged.

 

(Query: Is this a Judgement?)

 

Continue to swim. Rock moves further and further away. I reflect that

there will be something distinguished about the headlines announcing my

demise in such exalted company, and mentally frame one or two that I

think would look well in local paper. Am just turning my attention to

paragraph in our Parish Magazine when I hit a small rock, and am

immediately submerged again. Mysteriously rise again from the

foam--though not in the least, as I know too well, like Venus.

 

Death by drowning said to be preceded by mental panorama of entire past

life. Distressing reflection which very nearly causes me to sink again.

Even one recollection from my past, if injudiciously selected,

disconcerts me in the extreme, and cannot at all contemplate entire

series.. Suddenly perceive that space between myself and rock has

actually diminished. Viscountess--who has kept near me and worn slightly

anxious expression throughout--achieves it safely, and presently find

myself grasping at sharp projections with tips of my fingers and bleeding

profusely at the knees. Perceive that I have been, as they say, Spared.

 

(_Mem_.: Must try and discover for what purpose, if any.)

 

Am determined to take this colossal achievement as a matter of course,

and merely make literary reference to Byron swimming the

Hellespont--which would sound better if said in less of a hurry, and when

not obliged to gasp, and spit out several gallons of water.

 

Minor, but nerve-racking, little problem here suggests itself: What

substitute for a pocket-handkerchief exists when sea-bathing? Can

conceive of no occasion--except possibly funeral of nearest and

dearest--when this homely little article more frequently and urgently

required. Answer, when it comes, anything but satisfactory.

 

I say that I am cold--which is true--and shall go back across the rocks.

Viscountess, with remarkable tact, does not attempt to dissuade me, and I

go.

 

_July 27th._--End of holiday quite definitely in sight, and everyone

very kindly says, Why not stay on? I refer, in return, to Robert and the

children--and add, though not aloud, the servants, the laundry, the

Women's Institute, repainting the outside of bath, and the state of my

overdraft. Everyone expresses civil regret at my departure, and I go so

far as to declare recklessly that I shall be coming back next year--which

I well know to be unlikely in the extreme.

 

Spend last evening sending picture-postcards to everyone to whom I have

been intending to send them ever since I started.

 

_July 29th, London._--Return journey accomplished under greatly

improved conditions, travelling first-class in company with one of Rose's

most distinguished friends. (Should much like to run across Lady B. by

chance in Paris or elsewhere, but no such gratifying coincidence

supervenes. Shall take care, however, to let her know circles in which I

have been moving.)

 

Crossing as tempestuous as ever, and again have recourse to "An Austrian

Army" with same lack of success as before. Boat late, train even more so,

last available train for west of England has left Paddington long before

I reach Victoria, and am obliged to stay night in London. Put through

long-distance call to tell Robert this, but line is, as usual, in a bad

way, and all I can hear is "What?" As Robert, on his side, can apparently

hear even less, we do not get far. I find that I have no money, in spite

of having borrowed from Rose--expenditure, as invariably happens, has

exceeded estimate--but confide all to Secretary of my club, who agrees to

trust me, but adds, rather disconcertingly--"as it's for one night only".

 

_July 30th._--Readjustment sometimes rather difficult, after absence

of unusual length and character.

 

_July 31st._--The beginning of the holidays signalled, as usual, by

the making of appointments with dentist and doctor. Photographs taken at

Ste. Agathe arrive, and I am--perhaps naturally--much more interested in

them than anybody else appears to be. (Bathing dress shows up as being

even more becoming than I thought it was, though hair, on the other hand,

not at its best--probably owing to salt water.) Notice, regretfully, how

much more time I spend in studying views of myself, than on admirable

group of delightful friends, or even beauties of Nature, as exemplified

in camera studies of sea and sky.

 

Presents for Vicky, Mademoiselle, and our Vicar's wife all meet with

acclamation, and am gratified. Blue flowered chintz frock, however,

bought at Ste. Agathe for sixty-three francs, no longer becoming to me,

as sunburn fades and original sallowness returns to view. Even

Mademoiselle, usually so sympathetic in regard to clothes, eyes chintz

frock doubtfully, and says, "Tiens! On dirait un bal masqué." As she

knows, and I know, that the neighbourhood never has, and never will, run

to _bals masqués_, this equals unqualified condemnation of blue

chintz, and I remove it in silence to furthest corner of the wardrobe.

 

Helen Wills, says Cook, about to produce more kittens. Cannot say if

Robert does, or does not, know this.

 

Spend much time in writing to, and hearing from, unknown mothers whose

sons have been invited here by Robin, and one grandmother, with whose

descendant Robin is to spend a week. Curious impossibility of combining

dates and trains convenient to us all, renders this whole question

harassing in the extreme. Grandmother, especially, sends unlimited

letters and telegrams, to all of which I feel bound to reply--mostly with

civil assurances of gratitude for her kindness in having Robin to stay.

Very, very difficult to think of new ways of wording this--moreover, must

reserve something for letter I shall have to write when visit is safely

over.

 

_August 1st:_--Return of Robin, who has grown, and looks pale. He

has also purchased large bottle of brilliantine, and applied it to his

hair, which smells like inferior chemist's shop. Do not like to be

unsympathetic about this, so merely remain silent while Vicky exclaims

rapturously that it is _lovely_--which is also Robin's own opinion.

They get excited and scream, and I suggest the garden. Robin says that he

is hungry, having had no lunch. Practically--he adds conscientiously.

"Practically" turns out to be packet of sandwiches, two bottles of

atrocious liquid called Cherry Ciderette, slab of milk chocolate, two

bananas purchased on journey, and small sample tin of cheese biscuits,

swopped by boy called Sherlock, for Robin's last year's copy of _Pop's

Annual_.

 

Customary rather touching display of affection between Robin and Vicky

much to the fore, and am sorry to feel that repeated experience of

holidays has taught me not to count for one moment upon its lasting more

than twenty-four hours--if that.

 

(Query: Does motherhood lead to cynicism? This contrary to every

convention of art, literature, or morality, but cannot altogether escape

conviction that answer may be in the affirmative.)

 

In spite of this, however, cannot remain quite unmoved on hearing Vicky

inform Cook that when she marries, her husband will be _exactly_

like Robin. Cook replies indulgently, That's right, but come out of that

sauce-boat, there's a good girl, and what about Master Robin's wife? To

which Robin rejoins, he doesn't suppose he'll be _able_ to get a

wife exactly like Vicky, as she's so good, there couldn't be another one.

 

_August 2nd._--Noteworthy what astonishing difference made in entire

household by presence of one additional child. Robert finds one

marble--which he unfortunately steps upon--mysterious little empty box

with hole in bottom, and half of torn sponge on the stairs, and says,

This house is a perfect Shambles--which I think excessive. Mademoiselle

refers to sounds emitted by Robin, Vicky, the dog, and Helen Wills--all,

apparently, gone mad together in the hay-loft--as "tohu-bohu". Very

expressive word.

 

Meal-times, especially lunch, very, very far from peaceful. From time to

time remember, with pained astonishment, theories subscribed to in

pre-motherhood days, as to inadvisability of continually saying Don't,

incessant fault-finding, and so on. Should now be sorry indeed to count

number of times that I find myself forced to administer these and similar

checks to the dear children. Am often reminded of enthusiastic accounts

given me by Angela of other families, and admirable discipline obtaining

there without effort on either side. Should like--or far more probably

should _not_ like--to hear what dear Angela says about _our_

house, when visiting mutual friends or relations.

 

Rose writes cheerfully, still in South of France--sky still blue, rocks

red, and bathing as perfect as ever. Experience curious illusion of

receiving communication from another world, visited many aeons ago, and

dimly remembered. Weather abominable, and customary difficulty

experienced of finding indoor occupation for children that shall be

varied, engrossing, and reasonably quiet. Cannot imagine what will happen

if these conditions still prevail when visiting school-fellow--Henry by

name--arrives. I ask Robin what his friend's tastes are, and he says, Oh,

anything. I enquire if he likes cricket, and Robin replies, Yes, he

expects so. Does he care for reading? Robin says that he does not know. I

give it up, and write to Army and Navy Stores for large tin of Picnic

Biscuits.

 

Messrs. R. Sydenham, and two unknown firms from places in Holland, send

me little books relating to indoor bulbs. R. Sydenham particularly

optimistic, and, though admitting that failures have been known, pointing

out that all, without exception, have been owing to neglect of directions

on page twenty-two. Immerse myself in page twenty-two, and see that there

is nothing for it but to get R. Sydenham's Special Mixture for growing R.

Sydenham's Special Bulbs.

 

Mention this to Robert, who does not encourage scheme in any way, and

refers to last November. Cannot at the moment think of really good

answer, but shall probably do so in church on Sunday, or in other

surroundings equally inappropriate for delivering it.

 

_August 3rd._--Difference of opinion arises between Robin and his

father as to the nature and venue of former's evening meal, Robin making

sweeping assertions to the effect that All Boys of his Age have Proper

Late Dinner downstairs, and Robert replying curtly More Fools their

Parents, which I privately think unsuitable language for use before

children. Final and unsatisfactory compromise results in Robin's coming

nightly to the dining-room and partaking of soup, followed by interval,

and ending with dessert, during the whole of which Robert maintains

disapproving silence and I talk to both at once on entirely different

subjects.

 

(Life of a wife and mother sometimes very wearing.)

 

Moreover, Vicky offended at not being included in what she evidently

looks upon as nightly banquet of Lucullan magnificence, and covertly

supported in this rebellious attitude by Mademoiselle. Am quite struck by

extraordinary persistence with which Vicky, day after day, enquires

_Why_ she can't stay up to dinner too? and equally phenomenal number

of times that I reply with unvarying formula that Six years old is too

young, darling.

 

Weather cold and disagreeable, and I complain. Robert asserts that it is

really quite warm, only I don't take enough exercise. Have often noticed

curious and prevalent masculine delusion, to the effect that sympathy

should never, on any account, be offered when minor ills of life are in

question.

 

Days punctuated by recurrent question as to whether grass is, or is not,

too wet to be sat upon by children, and whether they shall, or shall not,

wear their woollen pullovers. To all enquiries as to whether they are

cold, they invariably reply, with aggrieved expressions, that they are

_Boiling_. Should like scientific or psychological explanation of

this singular state of affairs, and mentally reserve the question for

bringing forward on next occasion of finding myself in intellectual

society. This, however, seems at the moment remote in the extreme.

 

Cook says that unless help is provided in the kitchen they cannot

possibly manage all the work. I think this unreasonable, and quite

unnecessary expense. Am also aware that there is no help to be obtained

at this time of the year. Am disgusted at hearing myself reply in

hypocritically pleasant tone of voice that, Very well, I will see what

can be done. Servants, in truth, make cowards of us all.

 

_August 7th._--Local Flower Show takes place. We walk about in

Burberrys, on wet grass, and say that it might have been much worse, and

look at the day they had last week at West Warmington! Am forcibly

reminded of what I have heard of Ruth Draper's admirable sketch of

country Bazaar, but try hard not to think about this. Our Vicar's wife

takes me to look at the school-children's needlework, laid out in tent

amidst onions, begonias, and other vegetable products. Just as I am

admiring pink cotton camisole embroidered with mauve pansies, strange boy

approaches me and says, If I please, the little girl isn't very well, and

can't be got out of the swing-boat, and will I come, please. I go, our

Vicar's wife following, and saying--absurdly--that it must be the heat, and

those swingboats have always seemed to her very dangerous, ever since

there was a fearful accident at her old home, when the whole thing broke

down, and seven people were killed and a good many of the spectators

injured. A relief, after this, to find Vicky merely green in the face,

still clinging obstinately to the ropes and disregarding two men below

saying Come along out of it, missie, and Now then, my dear, and

Mademoiselle in terrific state of agitation, clasping her hands and

pacing backwards and forwards, uttering many Gallic ejaculations and

adjurations to the saints. Robin has removed himself to furthest corner

of the ground, and is feigning interest in immense carthorse tied up in

red ribbons.

 

(_N.B._ Dear Robin perhaps not so utterly unlike his father as one

is sometimes tempted to suppose.)

 

I tell Vicky, very, very shortly, that unless she descends instantly, she

will go to bed early every night for a week. Unfortunately, tremendous

outburst of "Land of Hope and Glory" from brass band compels me to say

this in undignified bellow, and to repeat it three times before it has

any effect, by which time quite large crowd has gathered round. General

outburst of applause when at last swing-boat is brought to a standstill,

and Vicky--mottled to the last degree--is lifted out by man in check coat

and tweed cap, who says _Here_ we are, Amy Johnson! to fresh

applause.

 

Vicky removed by Mademoiselle, not a moment too soon. Our Vicar's wife

says that children are all alike, and it may be a touch of ptomaine

poisoning, one never knows, and why not come and help her judge decorated

perambulators?

 

Meet several acquaintances and newly-arrived Miss Pankerton, who has

bought small house in village, and on whom I have not yet called. She

wears pince-nez and is said to have been at Oxford. All I can get out of

her is that the whole thing reminds her of Dostoeffsky.

 

Feel that I neither know nor care what she means. Am convinced, however,

that I have not heard the last of either Miss P. or Dostoeffsky, as she

assures me that she is the most unconventional person in the whole world,

and never stands on ceremony. If she meets an affinity, she adds, she

knows it directly, and then nothing can stop her. She just follows the

impulse of the moment, and may as like as not stroll in for breakfast, or

be strolled in upon for after-dinner coffee.

 

Am quite unable to contemplate Robert's reaction to Miss P. and

Dostoeffsky at breakfast, and bring the conversation to an end as quickly

as possible.

 

Find Robert, our Vicar, and neighbouring squire, looking at horses. Our

Vicar and neighbouring squire talk about the weather, but do not say

anything new. Robert says nothing.

 

Get home towards eight o'clock, strangely exhausted, and am discouraged

at meeting both maids just on their way to the Flower-Show Dance. Cook

says encouragingly that the potatoes are in the oven, and everything else

on the table, and she only hopes Pussy hasn't found her way in, on

account of the butter. Eventually do the washing-up, while Mademoiselle

puts children to bed, and I afterwards go up and read _Tanglewood

Tales_ aloud.

 

(Query, mainly rhetorical: Why are nonprofessional women, if married and

with children, so frequently referred to as "leisured"? Answer comes

there none.)

 

 

To be continued

 

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